I just got off the phone with my mother. AGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!
Please, someone tell me what one has to do to impress her? Wait don't tell me, that's a rhetorical question. I know what I have to do- get a man, get him to marry him, and do it soon
Oh my goodness, it's never enough- I get a good job in an investment bank and it's - "um, very good, but don't you think that is going to intimidate the men?" I buy a house, and its " Congratulations, but which one will your husband do now?" I really can't win, I just don't understand, if all they wanted me to be was some housewife/baby maker, then I don't know why they sent me to school. I should have stayed at home, and then on weekends gone to Maggi kitchen to learn how to cook for said husband.
It's soooooooooo frustrating, because I don't know what I'm supposed to do - I can apply for a job, prepare for interview - I can fill out the forms to get a mortgage, do a credit check - get a house, but I can't apply for a husband? It's not like I don't want to get married, but there are no offers at the moment, so I just have to get on with my life. Am I not supposed to get a good job, not get a house, until my knight in shining armour comes to rescue me?
Agggggggggh, AAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGH
Wow, that did feel better, mabye I should just use this blog to vent. Sorry, to those out there in blog world having to read my rants, I feel better now, I think. It's just that I'm so tired of having all these conversations with the parents about my "status", and what I'm doing wrong, or what they think I'm doing wrong. Scaring of the men, by being too intimidating - that really drives me up the wall, I don't want any man that would be intimidated by a woman who has a good job and who's making something of her life, if hes that chicken, he's not the man for me. But don't tell my mum I said so, cos then she'll just tell me pride goes before a fall or something, which is her other favourite thing to tell me. I've heard it all, I'm too picky, I'm too intimidating, I'm too proud, I'm too quiet, I'm too loud, I have too many guy friends......thats her latest one, that she brought up when I told her I was hanging out with my friend Tobi........
So what is a woman's worth? Its' the year 2007, 2 weeks from 2008, and my mum still thinks I'm not complete, until a man comes to save me from myself. Help!!!
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don't worry about her.......... do you!!!!!
Interesting...ranting is good and some parents are like this...the key is to zone out....Listen, be respectful but ignore...
Thanks for dropping by. Nice blog, love this post. Gotta go with Uzo half way, be respectful....and understanding. Get on with life until the offers come. And they will. in the meantime do all you can for you. When the dude comes along he will fit in. We always do...been there.
I can relate. Sometimes it's like there's this huge yawning chasm between our views and our parents', especially when it comes to things like marriage. The venting is definitely healthy. When these discussions come up, like Uzo says listen respectfully but try not to let it all get to you. And don't worry about finding (or being found by) 'him' - it'll all happen in God's good time. You just wait and see...
Awwww. pele. Sounds like you needed to vent.
My mother was the opposite before I got married. She always said "the sky is the limit, and a good man will fall in place" I remember before I got married, I bought a brand new benz and my father was nervous about how my car might intimidate men. On the other hand, my mother was all too happy. She said, "any man that will be intimidated by your achievements is NOT worth marrying".
Fast forward three years...
Am happily married with a beautiful daughter. So why did I go into all this ramblings? I wanted to share my testimony to encourage you that your ORDAINED husband will come into your life at HIS appointed time. Acknowledge GOD in all you do, and HE will order your steps.
PLEASE don't get pressured into marriage. Your parents are just anxious which is quite normal. BUT dont let their anxiety lead you into making the wrong decisions.
Sounds like you have a great life -LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST!!
That's my 2 cents (ok, maybe a lil more, lol!!)
hahah... this sounds like a page out of my diary.
lol
be yourself. It is true that lots of men are intimidated by female success, but you don't want those ones anyway.
love your blog already,
That was a good rant to read. Continue to do what makes you happy, the rest will fall into place eventually.
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