My Boy Best Friend

My best friend is a boy - there I've said it.....is that so weird??? I didn't think so, but apparently I'm in a majority of one. I've known Tobi for ages, I can't remember a time when we weren't friends, he just seemed easier to talk to than all the girls I hung around with. My mum hates him - well she doesn't really hate him, but she wishes we weren't so close, she thinks he's a saboteur - preventing me from being with my husband. According to my mum, I would be married if not for Tobi. I'm not talking to other boys, because I'm always talking to Tobi, instead of going on dates, I'm hanging out with Tobi. In vain do I tell her that there is nothing going on btw us, that we are just friends, but somehow it doesn't seem to compute. You think she would have gotten it by now, cos Tobi and I have been friends for that long.......

Unlike me, Tobi is more successful with the opposite sex. Well, I don't know if successful is the word that I would use for him, lets just say that he has no trouble getting their attention, them keeping his, is more of a problem. Speaking of problems - try being the best friend girl of a guy that has a girlfriend!!! Tobi's girlfriends never quite know what to make of me, they usually as a rule, follow one of two tactics - they hate me, or they pretend to love me. I prefer the ones that hate me, cos at least they aren't fake. They don't like the fact that we are so close and that we have all these shared memories, and that he tells me everything - and some of them say this straight out, and tell him that they would prefer it if we didn't spend so much time together. The other group pretend to love me - their strategy is to become real close to me, and call me up all the time and find out what Tobi has been telling me that he hasn't been telling them.

As for me, I just take it all in stride, I've seen quite a lot of ladies come and go, and I've learnt to deal with it as a joke. I hear about them when they come, i.e, when he's thinking about dating them, and has decided that they are the only woman in the world for him, and I hear about them when they go - when he decides that the world is bigger than he thought.

Having read what I just wrote, I'm afaid that I'm making my friend seem like some kind of player, and he isn't. There have been a few girls, but he's a really nice guy, good looking, tall, christian and a doctor. For a lot of people that's too much man to resist, and so the girls come, and he's interested, and then he's not......hmm, maybe he does have player tendencies.....I need to talk to him about that later.....

The thing that Joke and co (his exes ) don't understand is that our relationship isn't one full of tension or chemistry. We are comfortable with each other- so much so that he never notices me like a girl or anything like that - and he's the dearest friend I have in the world. We've been through a lot together - the death of a parent, unemployment, failed relationships (with other people)that we get each other, no romance included. Now what's so weird about that???